William has recently started to display a little separation anxiety when I drop the twins off at Elisabeth’s on Wednesday mornings. He refuses to let go of my neck. “Daddy come,” he asks plaintively when I explain that I have to go to work. He cries when I pry his little arms away. My heart breaks every time I have to leave him.
Tags: fatherhood, toddlers, Twins
December 22, 2008 at 5:53 am |
I know how that breaks your heart, even though, it’s totally normal. My husband works long days four days a week and then has a three day weekend. It’s a great schedule in a lot of ways (especially since he commutes), but it means that Benjamin doesn’t get a lot of daddy time during those days. Last week my son (who’s almost four) said to me, “Daddy’s lost.” And I said, “He’s not lost. He’s just at work.” To which he replied forlornly, “He’s lost at work!”
December 22, 2008 at 6:09 pm |
Thank you for the comment. Intellectually, I know that it is normal but you are right that it still breaks my heart. That is so sweet about Benjamin. Is he old enough to talk with daddy on the telephone while he is driving home from work?
December 22, 2008 at 6:49 pm |
Yes, and he often does, but it’s just been recently that he’s really been able to carry on a conversation with him that way. When Neal does get home, it’s usually around bed time and Benjamin always wants him to come lay down with him and sing to him or play little “thinking games” before he goes to sleep. So, even though their time together is limited on those days, I know it’s meaningful, and they’re building a strong relationship, as I’m sure, you are with your kids.
December 22, 2008 at 7:01 pm |
Aw, that’s so sweet, not only that he wants you to stay but that it still breaks your heart. I have 4 and I don’t know if that’s why leaving them never breaks my heart or if I’m just heartless, but when I drop them off anywhere or leave them with a babysitter, I run away as fast as I can and my heart is usually swelling with happiness.
April 8, 2009 at 2:13 am |
that hurts, but they forget about it, so try to do that too